You’re excited about the dress, but you’re missing them like crazy.
It’s emotional whiplash, and oh yes...
it’s exhausting.
We’re here to help you stop the spiral.
Instant access • Free GPTs & more
If you’re planning a wedding while grieving someone you love,
this free toolkit helps you navigate the emotions that show up unexpectedly —
without turning your wedding into "Four Weddings and a Funeral" vibe.
Instant access to tools that help you:
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Stop second-guessing what to do or say
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Understand why you feel the way you do and... deal
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Feel prepared to deal with all the weird or awkward things people say and do
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Keep focused on the joy of your engagement
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and avoid emotional whiplash on your big day
We'll Help You Plan With Peace — Not Panic
✅ When grief hits unexpectedly…
You’ll have quick tools that ground you fast — so you’re not spiraling mid-vendor meeting or dress fitting.
✅ When family dynamics feel complicated…
You’ll have actual scripts and wording you can use, instead of rehearsing conversations in your head for hours.
✅ When emotions feel unpredictable…
You’ll have simple exercises that reduce overwhelm and help you make clear decisions.
✅ When you’re second-guessing everything…
You’ll feel confident in how you’re honoring them — and yourself.
Why your sanity needs this...
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Stop wondering if what you’re feeling is “normal” (spoiler: it is).
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Or if you’re feeling nothing… also valid
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Decide if you want a memorial… and if so, what kind (or none at all)
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Know what to say when people ask questions you did not prepare for (ahem, Aunt Joan means well… and is still one sentence away from wrecking your mascara)
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Plan a wedding day that still feels like a wedding — not a performance—or a funeral (the secret fear of brides when planning a tribute)
What You're Actually Getting
(& How it Helps)
The AI Dream Team:
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Nina the Navigator: Your steady friend for finding tribute clarity.
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Brenda the Boundary Bodyguard: Your spicy protector for handling wedding drama & "Aunt Joan."
The Discovery Tools:
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The Memorial Vibe Quiz for Couples: Stop the second-guessing. Find out if you're "Visible" or "Private."
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The "Grief-Safe" Timeline: A planner insert that schedules your self-care buffers right next to your hair trials.
The Communication Kit:
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Wedding Moment SOS Cards: Color-coded scripts to shut down awkward guest comments gracefully.
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45 Bridal Affirmation Wallpapers: Mental anchors for your phone.
The "Support System"
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Exclusive Bride Collective Invite: A community that gets it in a private FB group where you won't find "toxic positivity."
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Curated Spotify Playlists: For both the planning "feels" and the ceremony tributes.
Nina, The Wedding Tribute & Memorial Navigator GPT
Helps you gently decide if, when and how to honor a loved one—without spiraling. Where are you at in grief and how might it impact your choices. Start here!
The Couples Wedding Memorial Vibe Check GPT
A gentle quiz to help couples choose how to honor loved ones—together. Discover, discuss, and decide. Perfect conversation starters!
Brenda, the Bride's Boundary Bodyguard GPT
Your advocate for handling drama and protecting emotional peace. How-to-say-it scripts, have those tough conversations, say no with grace, and protect your sanity.
Custom Music: Warning: Tissues may be needed...
This toolkit reduces the emotional load of planning a wedding while grieving — based on years of creating memorial jewelry for brides and listening to what they actually need.
This isn’t “inspiration.” It’s what hundreds of brides wish they’d had before Aunt Joan asked that question.
We won’t try to make you cry but if it happens, we’ll hand you the cookie dough ice cream and a tissue and get through it together.
PLAYLISTS
Tribute songs for the wedding day + songs for wedding planning
SOS SCRIPTS
What to say & not say during tough talks + Bridal Affirmation Cards
FREE ANGEL CHARM
Special codes for Something Blue Angel + Angel Wing Charm for your bouquet
EXCLUSIVE FB GROUP
Support & more in our private community with brides who get it
You don't have to talk to yourself anymore...
Our community is here for you!
What you're feeling is normal.
Two things can be true:
this can be a joyful season and emotionally complicated.
This toolkit will help you sort through the emotions and the logistics, without letting either take over.
who made this & why?
I’m Lisa. I’m the woman behind the screen and this Toolkit. But I didn’t set out to create it.
It grew out of years of being invited into meaningful moments with brides — helping them honor someone they love on their wedding day.
As the creator of Build a Bouquet Charm, I kept hearing the same quiet questions — the ones brides don’t always know who to ask:
“Is this too much?”
“Is this not enough?”
“How do I honor them without making the day feel heavy?”
I heard questions from moms, grandmas, and sisters too — all trying to get it just right without upsetting the bride they love.
Eventually, I realized there wasn’t a single resource I could point them to. So I created one.
In 2026, that work became a book — A Bride’s Guide to Wedding Day Memorials & Emotional Survival — and from there, this toolkit naturally followed.
Not to tell anyone what they should do.
Just to make this part of wedding planning feel a little less overwhelming — and a lot less lonely.
This toolkit exists so you don’t have to figure it all out while you’re already doing a million other things (like seating chart Tetris and pretending you care deeply about wedding monograms).
It was created for brides navigating . . .
Love . . . Loss . . . and logistics at the same time —
by someone who’s spent years helping brides honor people they miss without making the day feel sad, awkward, or overly serious.
“Lisa was amazing through the whole process of making my bouquet charm. It was gorgeous, arrived quickly, and captured my dad's memory even better than I'd hoped.
She even sent me thoughtful messages throughout the process, showing how much she understood how meaningful it was --but also how emotional it was too. It gave me so much peace because by the time I found a photo I was an emotional mess.
-Beth
BONUS INSIDE THE TOOLKIT
Get a Complimentary Angel Charm for your bouquet (details inside!)
The Resource You Won't Find in Any Other Wedding Planner
This toolkit exists because wedding planning doesn’t pause for grief — and most tools don’t make room for it.
Here, you’ll find language, perspective, and reassurance — so your choices feel intentional, personal, and true to you.
We’re not here to tell you how to feel.
Or what you should do.
We’re here to say:
This is hard.
What you’re feeling makes sense.
And you don’t have to carry it alone.
This toolkit comes from years of creating memorial keepsakes for weddings — and listening closely to the stories behind them.
It’s not about fixing anything . . .
It’s about understanding what’s happening — and trusting yourself through it
FAQ
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Nope. Choosing not to is a completely valid choice. Our resources will help you understand exactly what you want (or not) and why.
This toolkit wasn’t created in theory — or during a late-night Pinterest spiral.
It grew out of years of being invited into meaningful, complicated moments by brides — helping them carry someone they love with them on a day that’s meant to be joyful, even when grief is part of the picture.
I’ve listened to the questions bride's have quietly asked.
"Will this look okay? What do most bride's do?"
I've had their moms and grandmas and sisters ask...
"Do you think the bride will like this?
What if it's too emotional?
When should I gift it to her?
I don't want to upset her... I want it to be just right."
I’ve spent years helping women carry love into hard moments — and I built this because I wished it existed sooner.
You can feel steadier.
More prepared.
You can cry in the shower and then answer vendor emails and feel okay about it all.
You can feel more like yourself again — just with a little more clarity.
If that sounds like a place you’d rather be, this is a really good place to start.
You don't have to accept that heavy feeling is here for the entire engagement.
Instant access. Practical support. No pressure. No pretending.
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